What are you, was he, etc. getting at?
Definition 1 of 2
Pro Tip 1/3Conversation Probe
Used to gently dig deeper into someone's thoughts when the meaning isn't clear. 
You seem upset about the decision, what are you getting at?
Pro Tip 2/3Not Aggressive
It's a non-confrontational way to ask for clarity without sounding too aggressive. 
Your comments are intriguing; what are you getting at?
Pro Tip 3/3Clarify Assumptions
Use it to clarify if you think someone is implying something without stating it directly. 
Your hints seem to point somewhere; what are you getting at?